Dr. Beth Grosshans is a licensed clinical psychologist with a specialty in working with parents manage the behavioral problem of children ten and younger. Based in Vero Beach, Florida, Dr. Beth Grosshans is the author of Beyond Time-Out: From Chaos to Calm, a parenting book which focuses on what she calls imbalanced family power, where children have more behavioral and emotional power than their parents. When this imbalance happens it undermines the healthy development of self-control, respect and cooperation..
As the author observes, in too many families today, parenting has become more a series of accommodations made to pacify children rather than adults using their better judgement to lead their children in best practices. This does not have to do with them receiving too little love, as they often have their parents’ “complete devotion.” Rather, that devotion may create a situation where kids are not provided with clear enough limits, boundaries and expectations for appropriate behavior. Children with too much power can quickly become demanding, oppositional and even out of control. Parents seem to be at a loss as to how to take back the reins and lead. “In running a family, kids ruin the family.” They also ruin themselves, as Imbalanced Family Power is not something children grow out of, rather, IFP has lifelong consequences that interfere with healthy maturation, the consequences of which derail success in school, wok and relationships. The framework that the author uses helps parents to see the ways in which their day to day interactions and conversations inadvertently transfer power to thier children. In the process, she gives them tools for “reclaiming the lead” in ways that wind up improving both their family harmony and the well-being of their children.
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AuthorExperienced Psychologist Beth Grosshans Lectures on Child Development Archives
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