Possessing an extensive background in New Jersey as a clinical psychologist, Beth Grosshans, PhD, has assisted numerous children, couples, and families. Dr. Beth Grosshans is known for her experience in defining positive parent-child relationships and is author of Beyond Time-Out: From Chaos to Calm.
One fundamental issue addressed by the book is imbalance of family power (IFP), which occurs when kids are given too much power within a family dynamic. As a result, parents of children under age 10 may have a sense of being held prisoner to their progenies’ unruly, often demanding, behavior and whims.
Hallmarks of IFP include moms and dads over-talking and over-parenting, with fruitless negotiations ending in a situation where they give in to their children. The roots of this lie in the concept of "democratic parenting." Having begun in the 1960s, the methodology is based on a belief that parents asserting authority would have negative impacts on child development. This swung the pendulum toward situations where intact feelings, self-esteem, and unconditional love were the desired attributes of the parent-child relationship.
As Dr. Grosshans puts it, acting respectfully toward children is not wrong, but there is a proper time and place to assert parental authority. Children respond in positive ways when they are guided in a rhythm that is reliable, respectful, and productive, and sets out achievable goals.
Experienced Psychologist Beth Grosshans Lectures on Child Development